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摘译自赛斯《个人实相的本质》

有相似想法的人会强化彼此的信念。当你突然决定通过改变你的信念来改变你的现实时，你可能会遭到一些误解——根据情况的不同，你可能会走向一个与你所属的团体完全不同的方向。其他人可能会觉得有必要捍卫大家之前认为理所当然的想法。那时候你们的信念是融合在一起的。每个人对于实相都有他自己的想法，理由似乎都是合理的。需求得到了满足。当你突然改变你的信念时，那么你在这个团体里的位置就不一样了——你不再玩这个游戏了。

People with like ideas reinforce each other's beliefs. You may meet with some misunderstanding when you suddenly decide to change your reality by changing your beliefs—according to the circumstances, you may be going in a completely different direction than the group to which you belong. The others may feel it necessary to defend ideas that all of you previously took for granted. In such cases your beliefs merged. Each individual has his or her own ideas about reality for reasons that seem valid. Needs are met. When you abruptly change your beliefs, then in the group you no longer have the same position—you are not playing that game any longer.

在这个团体里，你也许突然停止为其他人提供你之前满足过的需求。这不仅影响了亲密行为，也影响了，比如说，社交互动。

In the group, you may suddenly cease to provide for the others a need that you satisfied earlier. This affects both intimate behavior and, say, social interactions.

于是，当你从一组信念转移到另一组时，有段时间你可能会感到失落。然而，其他分享你的新信念的人，会被你吸引，而你也会被他们吸引。关于这一点，我在本书后面还会多说一些，但这个道理可以解释，为什么当一个人突然决定节食减肥时，可能会遭到来自亲朋好友的含蓄甚至公开的抵制；为什么制定新计划的人会发现自己被同事的嘲笑所困扰；为什么当酒鬼在努力戒酒时，却发现别人竟公然引诱他，或用暗计逗他放纵。

For a time then you may experience a feeling of loss as you move from one group of beliefs to another. However, others, sharing your new beliefs, will gravitate toward you and you to them. I will say more about this later in the book, but it explains for example why a diet-watcher, suddenly determined to lose weight, may meet with veiled or even open resistance from family or friends; why the person who makes new resolutions may find himself baffled by associates' ridicule; why the alcoholic trying not to drink finds others tempting him quite openly, or teasing him into indulgence by hidden tactics.

当一个生病的人通过改变信念开始走上康复之路时，他可能会很惊讶地发现，甚至他最亲密的死党都突然不安起来，提醒他他身患恶疾的这个“现实”，这也是出于同样的原因。

When someone who has been ill starts on the road to recovery through changing his beliefs, he may be quite surprised to find even his dearest allies suddenly upset, reminding him of the "reality" of his dire state for the same reasons.

因为信念形成了实相，即经验的结构——任何信念的改变都带来了经验结构的调整，当然也在一定程度上引发了变化。原来服务于某种目的的现状消失了，新的元素被引入，另一个创造过程开始了。因为你的个人信念是与别人分享的，因为有互动的存在，那么在你这方面任何方向上的坚定改变都会被他人感觉到，而他们会以自己的方式做出反应。

Because beliefs form reality—the structure of experience—any change in beliefs altering that structure initiates change to some extent, of course. The status quo which served a certain purpose is gone, new elements are introduced, another creative process begins. Because your private beliefs are shared with others, because there is interaction, then any determined change of direction on your part is felt by others, and they will react in their own fashion.

你正在启程去体验你所能达到的最充实圆满之境。为达此目的，我希望你已开始检视自己的信念了。你可能想让别人改变，要那样的话就先从你自己做起吧。我告诉过你玩一种“想象的游戏”，在这游戏里，你观想自己正按照你想要的新信念行事。当你这样做的时候，观想你在以新的方式影响别人。

You are setting out to experience the most fulfilled reality that you can. To do this you have, hopefully, begun to examine your beliefs. You may want others to change. In doing so you begin with yourself. I told you to imagine a game in which you see yourself acting in line with the new desired belief. As you do so, see yourself affecting others in the new fashion.

观想他们以新的方式对你做出反应。这是非常重要的，因为你正通过心电感应向他们发送内在的讯息。你在告诉他们，你正在改变你们关系的状况与行为。你在向大家广播你的位置已经改变了。

See them reacting to you in the new way. This is highly important because telepathically you are sending them interior messages. You are telling them that you are changing the conditions and behavior of your relationship. You are broadcasting your altered position.

有些人将能够在那个层面上理解你。也许有些人仍需要旧的架构，如果你不干了，他们需要有人扮演你以前所扮演的角色。这些人要么从你的经验中退出，要么你必须把他们由你的经验中剔除。

Some will be quite able to understand you at that level. There may be those who need the old framework, and someone, if not you, to play the part you played before. Those people will either drop out of your experience or you must drop them from yours.