做爱的意义｜情人节快乐！

我在试着教你们俩懂得，“信任”也是一种精神和肉体上的需要。“信任”确实是生物生活的一个条件——当然，尽管你成长中受到的各种教导与此相反。这种信任站在人类所有好奇心的背后，因为没有对这个世界的信任，人永远不会有勇气去探索世界。

当你做爱的时候，你就把自己托付给了别人，在精神和生理上做出了一种开放的声明，这种声明可以透过你体验的各个层面被理解，甚至在细胞的层面。在这样的爱的状态下，疗愈的能量会自动释放。这种爱的行为，以其自己的方式与动物的自发行为有益地联系在一起。也就是说，在这种时候，你可以在某种程度上表现出一种类似动物的信任感和自发性，以及一种爱的开放性，这种开放感是动物在最佳状态下经常表现出来的。再说一次，我提到过，你俩都可以从更多这样的体验中获益良多。这种体验会引发信任。

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做爱让你和你自己的过去重新结合，无意识的身体记忆会带你回到你对自己和他人身体的最初反应。那么在某种程度上，小孩对自己身体的所有好奇都会在每一个做爱的动作中被唤起，无论那动作的式样是什么。伴随着这些记忆而来的是一种生理上的活力勃发感，还有身体对自身的信心，这些都是非常重要的，而且远比你们社会所意识到的更有治疗作用。

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做爱，就像做梦一样，能让你回到你自己，并启动架构二的有益活动。做爱能恢复你的能量，并确实为创造力清除了障碍。

I am in the process of trying to teach you both that trust is also a spiritual and physical imperative. It is indeed a condition of biological life—this of course despite all of your upbringing. That kind of trust is behind all of man’s curiosity, for without a trust in the world he would never have the courage to explore it.

When you make love you are entrusting yourself to someone else, making a spiritual and biological statement of openness that is understood through all the levels of your experience—even to the cellular. Under such loving conditions healing energies are spontaneously released. In its own fashion such acts of love are beneficially related with the spontaneous behavior of animals. That is, you can behave to some extent at such times with a creature-like sense of trust and spontaneity, and of loving openness of a kind that animals at their best often display. Again, I mentioned that you could both benefit far more from more such encounters. They generate trust.

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Love-making reunites you with your own pasts, and unconscious bodily memory carries you backward to your earliest responses to your own body and that of others. To some extent then the child with all of his wonder about his own body is aroused in each act of love-making, whatever its variety. With those memories come feelings of biological exuberance, the body’s faith in itself, all highly important, and far more therapeutic than is ever realized in your society.

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Love-making, like dreams, returns you to yourselves, and initiates beneficial Framework-2 activity. It regenerates your energies, and indeed clears the passageways for creativity.

——赛斯《私人课》第六册 

我希望你在做爱时想象你的身体就像一片田野——当刺激来到这片田野时要保持觉察——感觉它被唤醒。我希望你集中精力、积极地感受。我希望你对肌肉的运动保持警觉——注意神经传递的信息。身体受到触摸的影响，就像田野受到风、雨和阳光的影响一样。因此，我只是建议你以同样的方式去觉察——倾听你身体的感受。那些感觉就在那儿的、确实存在，是你一直在阻挡它们。

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当你做爱时，允许自己有感觉。忘掉你必须达到高潮的巨大负担吧！

让你的身体享受简单的快乐。不要一开始就坚持它要有某种巅峰——让它顺其自然。冥想也是同样的道理——让你的内我在冥想中发挥作用，让你的身体在做爱中发挥作用吧！

I want you in your lovemaking to imagine that your body is like a field—be aware as stimuli come to this field—feel it waken. I want you to concentrate upon feeling actively. I want you to be alert to the movement of muscles—the message of nerves. The body is affected by touch in the same way as a field by the wind, the sun and the rain. I simply suggest, therefore, that you become aware in the same manner—that you listen for what your body feels. It is you who have been blocking sensations that are there and do exist.

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Allow yourself feelings when you make love. Forget the great burden that you must have an orgasm.

Allow your body its simple pleasure. Do not begin by insisting it have a certain kind of peak—let it go to be itself. The same thing in meditation—let your inner self play in your meditation and let your body play in your lovemaking.

——赛斯《私人课》第二册

人们常常认为，做爱会以某种方式削弱创造力；实际上，它非常有利于各种创作活动——这是我想强调的一点。

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对你俩的爱的共同认可，极大地增加了你们生活中的安全感，而涉及触摸的性爱很能让人想起孩童时期的自由状态，那时孩子们因触摸自己和其他物体而感到无比欣喜。

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在这方面，做爱是极其重要的，因为它本身能带来身心的全面改善。它有助于营造一种精神氛围——那种氛围有利于所有层面的康复，而且它同时涉及到你们两个人。做爱应该在你们优先考虑的事项中占据更高的位置。

It has often been thought that love-making in some way impairs creativity; in fact, it is highly conducive to all kinds of creative endeavor—a point I want to emphasize.

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Your joint acknowledgement of your love vastly increases the feelings of safety in your lives, and the love-making involving touch is very reminiscent of the childhood state involving freedom, when children rejoice in touching themselves and other objects and so forth.

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Love-making is extremely important in that regard, for of itself it brings about an overall betterment in body and mind. It helps bring about the kind of mental atmosphere that is conducive to healing at all levels, and it involves you both at the same time. It should have a much higher position in your priorities.

当你们宣告性行为是邪恶、不雅或可耻的，于是隐藏它，并假装它主要是“兽性”的时候，你们其实是对性行为过于执迷。当你们在市场上以夸张的方式宣扬性行为的好处时，你们也是对性行为过于执迷。当你们在性行为的表现上设下严格而不切实际的禁令，当你们建立起同样不切实际的、要正常人符合的积极表现的标准时，你们也是对性行为过于执迷。

You are obsessed with sexual behavior when you proclaim it evil or distasteful or debasing, hide it, and pretend that it is primarily “animalistic.” You are also obsessed with sexual behavior when you proclaim its merits in an exaggerated fashion from the marketplace. You are obsessed with sexual behavior when you put tight, unrealistic bans upon its expression, and also when you set up just as unrealistic standards of active performance to which the normal person is expected to comply.

——《心灵的本质》