【赛斯怎么说】关于同性恋

你们强调性别认同的重要性，因为在你们看来，一个小孩必须知道，他将以最精确的方式成长为一个男人或女人，连细枝末节都必须循规蹈矩。

人们用惊慌的眼光看待最轻微的偏离，以致个人的身份与价值完全系于对男女特征的认同上。不同性别的人被期待拥有迥异的特质、能力和表现。因此，一个感觉自己没有完全男性化的男人，就不会信任他作为一个人的身份。同样地，一个怀疑自己没有完全女性化的女人，也不会信任她人格的健全性。

同性恋者的心理基础是非常不稳定的，因为正是那些他们感觉最符合自己个性的兴趣和能力，恰恰标志着他们是性反常者。

这些都是足够简单的例子。但若一个男人的兴趣被你们的文化视为是女性所特有的，若他自然地想要进入大众认为是女性才感兴趣的领域，那么他就会在他的个人身份感、与文化所定义的性倾向之间，体验到激烈的冲突。当然，同样的状况也适用于女人。

由于你们夸大的焦点，你们对“性”的其他方面变得相对盲目。首先，性本身并不一定导向性交。它可以导向不生育小孩的行为。你们所认为的同性恋行为，在生理和心理上都是相当自然的性的表达。在更理想的环境中，这种活动会在一定程度上蓬勃发展，尤其在最佳的生育年龄前后。

对于那些望文生义的读者来说，这并不意味着这种活动会在这段时期占主导地位。但它的确意味着并不是所有性行为都以生育为最终目的——这在生理上是不可能的，而且会成为这个星球的灾难。所以如果你愿意这么说，人类有幸享有许多性表达的途径。现在占主导地位的强烈焦点，确实抑制了某些种类的友谊的形成，而那是未必会导致性行为的。

就像你们目前所体验到的，同性恋也代表了自然倾向的一个夸张版本，正如你们体验的异性恋版本也是夸张的一样。

从广义的角度说，一个男人爱一个男人、一个女人爱一个女人，就跟对异性示爱一样的自然。就此而言，双性恋才是更自然的。这才是人类的自然天性。

异性恋是双性恋的一个重要表现形式，在性的方面代表了生殖能力。然而，异性恋建立在双性恋的基础上，没有人类的双性本质，家庭的更大架构——氏族、部落、政府、文明——都将是不可能的。

在一个人生命的自然生物流程中，存在着不同强度的时期，在其中爱及其表达会有起伏波动，并且倾向于不同的路线。这当中还有非常重要的个体差异。然而，这些自然的韵律却很少被观察到。小孩子之间的同性恋倾向是十分自然的。然而，人们如此害怕这种倾向，以致同样自然的异性恋倾向也常常被抑制了。反之，年轻人则被模式化了。

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我不是说，同性恋只是通向异性恋的一个阶段。我是说，同性恋和异性恋都是人类双性本质的合理表达。

人类的伟大品质——爱、力量、同情心、才智和想象力，不为任一性别所独有。

 ——摘译自赛斯《心灵的本质》

You stress the importance of sexual identification, for it seems to you that a young child must know that it will grow up to be a man or woman, in the most precise of terms toeing the line in the least particular.

The slightest deviation is looked upon with dismay, so that personal identity and worth are completely tied into identification with femaleness or maleness. Completely different characteristics, abilities, and performances are expected from those in each category. A male who does not feel himself fully male, therefore, does not trust his identity as a person. A woman doubtful of her complete femininity in the same manner does not trust the integrity of her personhood.

A lesbian or homosexual is on very shifting psychological ground, because the same interests and abilities that they feel most personally theirs are precisely those that mark them as sexual eccentrics.

These are simple enough examples, but the man who possesses interests considered feminine by your culture, who naturally wants to enter fields of interest considered womanly, experiences drastic conflicts between his sense of personhood and identity  and his sexuality as it is culturally defined. The same, of course, applies to women.

Because of your exaggerated focus, you therefore become relatively blind to other aspects of sexuality. First of all, sexuality per se does not necessarily lead to intercourse. It can lead to acts that do not produce children. What you think of as lesbian or homosexual activity is quite natural sexual expression, biologically and psychologically. In more ideal environments such activity would flourish to some extent, particularly before and after prime reproductive years.

For those literal-minded readers, this does not mean that such activity would predominate at such times. It does mean that not all sexual activity is meant to end in childbirth  which is a biological impossibility, and would represent planetary catastrophe. So the species is blessed, if you will with many avenues for sexual expression. The strong focus that now predominates does inhibit the formation of certain kinds of friendships that would not necessarily at all result in sexual activity.

Lesbianism and homosexuality, as they are currently experienced, also represent exaggerated versions of natural inclinations, even as your experienced version of heterosexuality is exaggerated.

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In larger terms,it is as natural for a man to love a man, and for a woman to love a woman, as it is to show love for the opposite sex. For that matter, it is more natural to be bisexual. Such is the natural nature of the species.

Heterosexual love is one important expression of bisexuality, and sexually represents the reproductive abilities. Heterosexuality, however, rests upon the bisexual basis, and without man's bisexual nature, the larger frameworks of the family  the clan, tribe, government, civilization  would be impossible.

In the natural biological flow of a person's life, there are periods of varying intensities, in which love and its expression fluctuates, and tends toward different courses. There are also individual variations that are of great importance. These natural rhythms are seldom observed, however. Tendencies toward lesbianism or homosexuality in children are quite natural. They are so feared, however, that often just-as-natural leanings toward heterosexuality are blocked. Instead, the young person is stereotyped.

I am not saying that lesbianism and homosexuality are merely stages leading to heterosexuality. I am saying that lesbianism, homosexuality, and heterosexuality are valid expressions of man's bisexual nature.

The great human qualities of love, strength, compassion, intellect and imagination do not belong to one sex or the other.